Frequently Asked Questions

Do you come to the wedding rehearsal?

I encourage wedding rehearsals* and will attend if I am available.** This gives us all a chance to run through the ceremony and make sure everyone is comfortable with their roles. If I’m not available for your rehearsal, I can give you a cue sheet including the order of the processional and the rest of the ceremony.

What if our wedding rehearsal isn’t at the venue?

The most effective wedding rehearsals happen in the same space as the ceremony. If you’re not able to have your rehearsal in the ceremony space, I recommend gathering everyone in the space before the ceremony. (For couple’s who aren’t seeing each other before the wedding, a trusted family member can be a stand in for you!)

Tell me about your wedding and let’s set up a time to chat!

*For very complex ceremonies other than weddings we can discuss whether a rehearsal would be useful for you.

**There is a charge for rehearsals. I’ll include that information when I quote my fee.

What areas do you serve?

Weddings

I perform wedding ceremonies in all of New Jersey and parts of New York. If you’re getting married in the Big Apple, I am registered with New York City.

For weddings outside of New Jersey and New York, I have to check local laws, but we can talk about it.*

We can also talk about my ceremony writing services, if you have someone to officiate but want a highly personal, professionally crafted ceremony.

Family Ceremonies

For other ceremonies (e.g., baby namings, adoption ceremonies or memorials) I can travel outside of New Jersey and New York.*

Contact Cris about your ceremony today!

*Travel fees apply.

How do we find the right wedding officiant for us?

There are so many factors that go into choosing a wedding officiant and they include legal, logistical and personal questions that you have to ask about the type of ceremony you want and the services the officiant provides. To help you find the right wedding officiant for you, I wrote this guide to help you figure it all out. The guide includes:

• 10 Questions to Ask Each Other before Interviewing Officiants
• 10 Questions to Ask Every Officiant

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We want a completely secular, nonreligious wedding ceremony. Do you have to sign our marriage certificate minister or reverend?

Thanks to New Jersey’s new Civil Celebrant law and my training at the Celebrant Foundation & Institute, I am now able to solemnize marriages in New Jersey as a state certified Civil Celebrant. This means that I can sign your New Jersey marriage certificate as a Civil Celebrant without using my ordained title, Reverend. You can have a truly secular/civil ceremony without having to have a courthouse wedding.

Do I need a microphone / PA for my ceremony?

I will probably recommend using a microphone for your wedding ceremony if one or more of these describe your ceremony and ceremony space:

• Your ceremony is outdoors
• Your ceremony is indoors, in a large space or a space with high ceilings
• You may be shy when reading your vows
• You have readers or other speakers in your ceremony who may (or may not be) shy
• You have over 15 guests

Ceremony Planning Tips:

Don’t assume your venue has a microphone available. And if they do, how many mics, are they wireless, and can you see what the PA sounds like? Not all PAs are created equal. You want your friends and family to be able to hear your ceremony.

Ask your officiant about how many mics and what kind are recommended. I usually recommend at least 2 microphones for your ceremony, one near you for your vows and one to the side for your officiant and your readers.

Inclusive Ceremonies has a PA system available for an additional fee.

Some DJs provide a microphone, you should check to see how many mics are available, what the additional cost is. if any, and if the mic is wireless.

Let’s talk about your wedding ceremony today!

Do we need to have a wedding rehearsal?

A wedding rehearsal is a wonderful opportunity to double check the little details of your ceremony like, where will everyone stand? Is there enough room for our planned processional? Or are we sure we won’t need a microphone?

Most importantly, your wedding rehearsal is a chance for YOU to get comfortable in the ceremony space and do a run through, so on your wedding day you can enjoy the experience.

Does every wedding NEED a rehearsal? No.

Here are some of the reasons I recommend having a wedding rehearsal:

• You have a large wedding party that will have to walk down the aisle
• You’re planning something creative for the procession (e.g., a dancing procession)
• You have readers and other ceremony participants who may be nervous or may just benefit from practice getting from their seats to their spot in the ceremony
• You’re nervous about your ceremony
• You’re planning a ceremony element with some movement (e.g., circling around the space)
• You just want one to make cross your T’s and dot your I’s.

Tips:

Have your ceremony at the ceremony site. In my experience, having your ceremony at another location isn’t as effective. You don’t have the advantage of getting to know the “landmarks” of the ceremony space. Instead, I suggest either checking to see if you can arrange the rehearsal at the venue for an earlier date or seeing if the venue will allow you enough time to do a run through on early on the day.

Get your friends organized. Make sure your rehearsal participants know to arrive a few minutes early so everyone is ready to go, on time. In most cases, I find rehearsals can be done in as little as 30 minutes if everyone is on time, focused, and ready to participate.

Bring props. Practice passing your bouquet to your Maid of Honor. See what it’s like to tie the knot during your handfasting. Your rehearsal gives you a chance to practice your ceremony in as much or as little detail as you want.

A wedding rehearsal isn’t the same thing as the rehearsal dinner. You CAN have one without the other. So, if you want to just do a run through with just your officiant, so the two of you are comfortable with everything and then just go home after, you CAN do that.  And if you don’t need a rehearsal, but want to gather everyone for dinner the night before your wedding, you can do that too!

Not sure if you need a wedding rehearsal? Let’s talk about your wedding ceremony to find out.